Book of Memories

Dear Edward
Having never attended a quaker meeting before, I felt very moved last Sunday.
It was very lovely to share in all the wonderful memories. If I'd had a little more courage I would like to have said something myself - I would like to have spoken as a parent of one of Cindy
(Ms Tarrant's) pupils and form tutees

I remember clearly speaking to Cindy at Joanna's first parents' evening at Abbey Grange
She remarked that Joanna was quite reserved, which was true, but as Joanna had always been discarded at her junior school as a
(quiet child)! I was very keen to prevent any such label being attached at High School
So I immediately replied that Joanna may have seemed quieter, but actually possessed a deep inner confidence
When I received Joanna's report later in the year, I was touched to see that Cindy had remembered my words and written them on Joanna's report
I felt that from that time

on, the deep inner confidence that I had always hoped for (but not really known) started to grow & become a reality. Cindy had dared to believe the confidence was there, which I feel enabled Joanna to blossom and do so well at Abbey Grange
I thought I'd just add this memory to Joanna's note

We hope that you are all able to support each other at this time -
Best regards
Angela Smithells

Christmas 2005

Dear Edward
I only met Cindy a handful of times but on each occasion was struck by her strength, her matter-of-fact enjoyment of life and her love of her family.
The last couple of times I saw her were at Carol's where we were knitting - it was a pleasure to be in her company and I shall treasure the memory.
We send you all our love : Christmas is a hard time for memories , but I am sure you will all have many happy ones of lovely family occasions together. The forging of new traditions alongside the familiar is very restoring in the end.
Perhaps we'll see you in the New Year - of course, if there were ever any way we could offer any help , we'd be glad to.

Much love Annabel.

September 12 '05

Dear Edward

Whilst, in more recent times, Cindy's death has been expected, we hoped that somehow she would survive her last illness. The news of her dying has therefore still come as a great shock and our deepest sympathy goes out to you, the children & Cindy's family.
Cindy was a courageous woman, in great adversity, which we admired and wondered at. She always brought more than a few rays of sunshine + cheer into a room when we met her and was always great fun to be with. She surely will be missed by all who knew her.

Our thoughts are now with you, Toby, John and Rose and if there is any help we can give you in this sad time, please let us know.

With condolences.

Love,
Anne + Peter

19th September, 2005.

Dear Edward,

It is with a heavy heart that I send this letter to you, and the thoughts within. I can only imagine the dreadful trauma you have had, and the sadness you and the children are feeling at this time.

Cindy was the most practical down to earth person I have known. She came to help me at home when she was 13. It was a Saturday job and Jenny would have been 2 years old.
Pat found my advert in the sweet shop by the co-op in Bosham.

Cindy was marvelous, she cycled down to me every Saturday morning, and it was lovely to see her, and discuss the weeks events and what she was doing at school. She stayed with me for quite a number of years, and I remember well, telling her I was pregnant again, this time with Michael.

The children's parties were made great fun with Cindy's organisation. She used to come armed with ideas for games, one of the most favourite was the chocolate game. I would be surprised if your children haven't played that one!

Cindy loved needlework. She made me countless peg bags out of scrape material, and I still have the sausage dog draught excluder she gave for my birthday one year. It is much treasured.

She so wanted to do home economics at school, and had to move schools to enable her to do this. You really have to admire her tenacity. I know she went to Surrey University.
Afterwards I believe she went back packing, and I think that is where she met you
Edward. I remember her telling me about you.

I thought you and she had really got it all sorted when you stayed at home with the children and she did teaching, it seemed a very good arrangement, and worked well, you were so good with them.

I am sure the years you have spent bringing the children up, has been a huge advantage, and will help with your future relationships with them, it can only be of benefit. You and they can be of great comfort to each other. I know too that you all have great faith, and follow the Quaker religion, and that is wonderful.

I am enclosing a copy of the letter that Cindy sent me about 2 weeks ago. She paints such a vivid picture of the lovely summer the children have had, and I think she really

enjoyed the things she was able to take part in. I realise now that it was a 'goodbye' letter, and I am very sad that I did not reply earlier. Cindy and I always were close in thought. I used to say 'I think of you, and you appear'. I hope she knew that I was thinking of her very much indeed.

I am truly sorry that we won't be at the funeral. Chris and I will be in France, and Michael will be working at the shop in his place. I think the journey to York and back in
1 day would be a bit much for Jenny and Michael. They are sorry, as they loved Cindy to bits, she was a key figure in both of their early years. We will be in touch.

I hope things will get easier for you Edward, although it must seem as though it never will. Time does heal and soften the pain. I can see Cindy now flicking her hand in defiance of adversity, and accepting what was happening and making the best of it.

God bless you.

With love and loads of sympathy.

Annette x

Annette.

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Dear Annette,
this is a very belated happy birthday. I have been carrying this card around a week since before your birthday and I have been inbetween places and feeling rather unwell. we have had a non-stop holiday so far and the children have been enjoying themselves. We started with a week in Keswick in the Lake District. Edward took them all scrambling and on walks of modest length as Rose is still a reluctant walker. Toby bought himself a dinghy which proved great fun on the lake. We came home for a few days and then stayed with Mandy and family to take part in Dad's 70th birthday treat, a few rounds of Thruxton race course in a various fast cars. He was like the cat that got the cream and we all felt we'd bought him exactly the right thing. From there we went to Snowdonia to stay with Edward's family in a lovely house with a fantastic view. There were 16 of us in all including six children.
The grounds included access to a small waterfall that plunged into a pool that proved just right for diving and swimming. John + Rose camped in the garden for a couple of nights. They pitched the tent as far from the house as they could and I was sure they wouldn't last, but they had a wonderful time and enjoyed the excitement of being 'alone'! I particularly enjoyed a rail journey with Lance (E's father) and the children on the Ffestiniog railway. we have now been back home just over a week. Toby went away for a week with the YHA on a watersports week. He is particularly keen on sailing at the moment - his friend

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has a Laser at Bridlington and I think Toby's more keen than he is. John went on a scuba diving course at the local pool, which he loved. Rose joined a week long crafts and making mornings at the local church.
Mandy came and celebrated her 40th birthday with us.
Dave booked us - not the children who all stayed here under the care of her daughter Amy - all into the local marriott hotel overlooking the race course and we had a very luxurious night being pampered.
Today Edward has taken them all along with friends from Bristol who are staying for a few nights, to the seaside. I have arrived at the point where it is difficult to get up before lunch time - my backache is getting rather numb! My breathing has deteriorated significantly over the last month and I am only really comfortable when completely at rest. All very frustrating as there is so much I want to do and I still feel very energetic in my head. The doctor is applying for another drug not yet fully licenced which I should start on next week. So, I am listening to a lot of radio - do you have DAB, I really enjoy it - reading and am shamefully addicted to patience on my palms,
The children are in and out and slob on the bed with me - Rose is still getting instructions out of me for the sewing machine which is in the bedroom!
And when all is quiet the cat comes in for her share of attention. Hope you and Chris are well and happy and of course Jenny + Michael too. Lots of love Cindy.

One Sunday Cindy looked after Rosie (3) in Fox Group at Meeting. She made a big impression on Rosie, who came back talking all about her.
Rosie then announced that she wanted to name her favourite bouncy ball after Cindy.
We all love it when Cindy bounces back!

Wednesday 21 September

Dear Edward,

We miss Cindy. She made ordinary things (knitting, cooking, bringing up daughters) seem special in the way they truly are. Our many happy memories are not spoiled by her death and I hope we will continue to do some of the things we have enjoyed with the children. In particular, Clare and Beth want to continue making and/or baking days - and I would like to knit with Rose again when and if she is ready. Cindy has been and will continue to be a terrific role model for my girls as they are becoming young women - maybe they can do the same for Rose. Not that we are forgetting you, Toby and John - you are all in our thoughts.

Some practical offers:

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I'll babysit if you want to continue with your Wednesday night swimming class.

Cindy told Clare she was planning to ask me to finish her knitting - would you and the children want me to?
Knitting with Rose I've already mentioned

Anything else? I'm often available at short notice.

I don't for one minute think that anything I can say will make Things better, but we can promise to walk along side you in the coming years just in case.

love,
Carol

P.S. The new glasses look great!

Practical arrangements for Sunday
25 September

Elders: Cathy Holman (speaking to welcome
Friends/friends)
Barbara Windle
Bme Jones

Inner doorkeepers: Chris Hughes
Chris Holman
Margaret Bryan

Outer doorkeepers: Rosemary Stubbs
Suea Sayers

Other elders present will be upholding the meeting wherever in the room they are sitting.

SEPTEMBER 2005

My memories of Cindy by Catherine Complin x
I knew Cindy when we lived in York 12 years ago ~ we both travelled to Doncaster & taught Home Economics.
She was a wonderful person and always had so much energy & such a positive outlook on life.
I would sometimes pick her up & then we would get the train together. I particularly remember how she continued with her commitment to teaching & all the travelling, when she was heavily pregnant with Toby.
Cindy never complained & was always smiling.
I can remember you moving to Aldreth
Grove & having a lovely supper with you &
Toby at your new house. We also had a couple of walks with you in the park & fed the ducks with Toby ~ Cindy was such a calm & loving mother.
We left York in 1992 as we were posted to Germany. We have lovely memories of York & you Edward & Cindy are one of those.
I have always enjoyed keeping in touch
& receiving your news each year. I knew that Cindy was a wonderful partner & loving mother. x

SOME MEMORIES OF CINDY
Claire Gilham.

On Tuesday 6th of September 2005, Beth and I spent a lovely afternoon with Cindy.
Cindy was very chatty and funny that day, she talked a lot about how interested she was in her own medical condition, about how she wished she had seen her lung when it was removed to see exactly what was wrong. She talked also about the experiences of giving birth to Toby, John and Rose and how fascinating and amazing that had been, she took a mirror along to John's birth to get a better view of what was happening, much to the nurses surprise!

Many of my memories of Cindy are from when she and Edward would come home from their evenings out, while I was babysitting. She always sat down and talked about what they had done, we also talked a lot about the various textile projects we were working on. She was always very clear in her opinions and I came to value them very much and would talk to her about almost anything. I was so comfortable with her and she was always reassuring and wonderfully positive to talk to, especially when I had a hard first year at University.

The last image I have of Cindy is of her relaxing (with headphones round her neck) on the sofa in the downstairs front room. She was wearing a brown V-neck top with the orange rose that John had just made her pinned on her chest. She looked pleased and happy.

I can see many of Cindy's gifts in Toby, John and Rose; their confidence to be themselves and try new things, their competence in baking and making and their willingness always to find the good, and often the humour, in a situation.

Here is a funny note that Cindy left for me one babysit. I think it illustrates how thoughtful she was, and what a good sense of humour she had. It reads:

' Hello Claire
Meatballs in the fridge: (if you need some tea)
1) Balls in sauce are cooked and just need re-heating.
2) Raw balls need 20 mins. in tom. sauce.
3) John likes pork balls only.
4) Check how many balls Toby wants and you may need to cook a few raw ones extra
Pasta in end cupboard.

(You've no idea how much pleasure writing this note has given me!)

...enjoy your balls!!

J may cook if you want him to.

See you soon
Love Cindy '

Continuing to remember you and praying for you all Cynthia

Dear Cindy.
Was so kind, thoughtful, and sincere. Cindy was so lovely, and had a smile and Cheerful word for every-one. In all she had to bear with her health. Her courage, was an inspiration to us all.

With Deepest Sympathy

To. Edward. Toby, John, & Rose.
Cindy. Loved Edward, and the Children, and all her Family.
Cindy in return was Loved by everyone. We shall all miss
Cindy. But remember her lovely smiling face. And follow her example.
Cindy is resting peacefully now. And watching over us all.
And wanting us to be happy in The Future. God Bless her.
With my Love. From. Daisy. x

14 September 2005

TYPED WITHOUT NOTES

Dear Mr Tarrant

I have just learned of the sudden death of Cindy and I wanted to write to you to express my condolences.

What a fantastic lady she was and it has been a privilege to have known her over the years. I wish the circumstances had been different.

Her strength during her life will hopefully continue to have a positive affect on you and your family in the future.

I wish you and your children all the very best through this difficult time and into the future.

With best wishes

Yours sincerely

DR D M BOTTOMLEY
CONSULTANT CLINICAL ONCOLOGIST

13/7/06

Dear Edward,

I thought I would drop you a line to let you know I took part in the Race for Life last month. It was the third year I have run and this time I did it for Cindy.

It is a very emotional thing to do for everyone taking part but it is fun as well and there is a good opportunity to think about the people you are running for.

Imogen also ran and we have raised about sixty pounds between us.

I hope you are all well and are continuing to have some good days. Will you manage to get away at all this summer? We are going camping in France at the end of August but are being posh and going in a caravan this year - luxury! Imogen is very pleased as it means she can take her hair straighteners. One needs to get one's priorities right when one is 12. I'm just hoping

for no rain.

Anyway, I hope you don't mind me writing Edward. I know we only used to meet at Debbie's a couple of times a year but you are often in my thoughts.

With love
Gina

A photo of Alison, Cindy, Sarah & Chris in the Holman's garden

Edward, Toby, John + Rose,

Thought you might want this picture of us Quaker women enjoying a summer evening!

I think it is from 2003.

With much love
The Holman Clan
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My heart goes out to you —
Gerard joins me in sending you our love and sympathy.

Isabel.

15th September

Dear Edward

We were so sad to hear of Cindy's death — her courage and positive attitude have been an inspiration to many of us. I always enjoyed my occasional visits to you, because of your warmth and humour.

I grieve for you and the children but feel that you and Cindy between you have given them one of the best starts in life which will stand them in good stead in the difficult months ahead and throughout their life.

Some memories ---

Cindy leaving Heathrow airport to go on her trip to Australia -- where she then met you Edward! I went to see her off -- and felt as excited as she did about the adventure ahead, (the photo is from her trip - see her writing on reverse)!
Visiting Bosham and staying with Pat and Maurice. For many years afterwards,
Pat used to send me all her Christmas cards to use in school - and I was very grateful!

Enjoying many bottles of Sainsbury
Hungarian Merlot in Cindy's flat in Newsham.

Dear Edward, Toby, John and Rose

Well, I am not sure how to begin this card as there are so many words I want to use to describe how wonderful Cindy was. Warm, respectful, a lover of life and a
"liver" in the moment, a fount of good sense and wisdom, a wonderful sense of humour and of irony, a woman with class, style and wonderful good taste. (Although I can't remember the name, Cindy did advise me to buy a particular brand of saucepan and just to always have the best you can afford ... advice I will carry always)!
And Cindy also had a wonderful husband and three fantastic children - I am thinking of you all. Love Jane xxx

My Memories of Cindy

I first met Cindy when she was about 17 leaving her bike like all the others in my yard before catching the train, she always came and talked to me before going home

when Rose my daughter was getting married she said would you like me to make the bridesmaid's dresses for my little grand-daughters
Tracy & Lynn they were lovely Pale yellow with satin bows. The headdress and baskets made with real flowers later she made them Rag dolls one with Black Hair & Blue flowered dress. The other yellow hair & yellow flowered dress with lots of lace and even made little boots. We still have them and their children play with them. when she went to London she would come and tell about teaching children of many countries and later Adults to read, and the place she went to when she had the money. when she went to Australia I had letters and cards telling me all about her travels I don't know how she managed it but came home with China's bird scarer on a long pole I had to put a cover over it when the wind blew hard it made such a noise when Cindy moved to York. I thought we would lose touch
But she wrote and told me how she was getting on every time a new baby arrived.
She was Rose's first baby's god mother. (Steven is now 24)

Cindy was liked by all the family and I have great pleasure in knowing I was one of her old friends

Jean Barnes.

Mrs. Barnes

Dear Edward & Family
So sorry to hear your sad news about Cindy, such a lovely Person to know.

I am sorry I am unable to attend the funeral, not able to travel on my own because of my eye sight at the moment, but I will be thinking of you all on Sunday 25th.

I will send a donation to Oxfam on behalf of all the family

Sincerely
Jean Barnes.

I will miss Cindy a lot.
Whenever I remember her I picture her smiling and laughing. She was a brave, positive and inspiring person.
She was so friendly and easy to talk to and somehow always made you feel good about life.
Our little chats every week after gym gave me confidence, encouragement and hope through difficult times in my NQT year and I am forever grateful that she rescued Nok's ballet costume. (I'm now doing a dressmaking course.) She was a kind person who willingly gave her time to others. I wish I'd known her better.
Thank you Cindy.
Jenny Walkling.

Saturday 17th September

Dear Edward,

Thank you for letting us know your sad news of Cindy. We are thinking of you and Toby, John and Rose and remembering Cindy. She was a good friend with the ability to inspire positivity whenever we met. We'll miss her, but always have good memories of her honesty, and thoughtful caring about others while being such a busy, energetic person, enjoying life.

Sorry it's taken me so long to write these few words Edward, please always feel you can call us for any reason if you need anything at all.

We hope to see you on Sunday, and thank you for Cindy sharing lifts with Richard for those years, making him feel cheerful and human whatever happened and being able to laugh about the day's problems and events, with someone who understood the need to.
Take care of yourself, love and thoughts for you all, Jill

Dear Edward, Toby, John and Rose,

I would like to say what a caring teacher
Cindy was and how much I and many of my friends appreciated her wisdom and kindness.

Thankyou very much for allowing me to listen to all the memories which were shared at the Funeral.

Your sincerely
Joanna Smithells

Monday 3rd Oct
I've been thinking about Cindy a lot today. Today's the kind of day when I will miss her.
An unspectacular trip to school and slow walk back on a grey, dull x ordinary autumn morning. I would often bump into Cindy or she'd hop off her bike along the route and we'd stop and chat for a long while, put the world to rights x wander home up Bishopthorpe Rd. On these occasions, without fail, my mood would be changed for the better by the time I reached home. We would say good-bye and say "Hey ho" in recognition that our ranting achieved little. Except it always put a smile on my face and I'll miss that lovely woman on these dull, ordinary mornings.
Kate

A walk on a Barmoor trip. Cindy holding a baby, presumably Rose, sitting on a grassy bank next to Debbie Rack.

Another grassy bank. John, Cindy and Rose. Rose is a baby, John is wearing a red top, red trousers and red sandals.

Damming the stream. Edward, Toby, John and another child play in the stream, almost definitely building a dam!

Dear Edward,

I was saddened to hear of Cindy's death.

My best memories are of you both on the yearly visits to Barmoor as your family grew.

Cindy welcomed Joseph and I when we moved to York and supported me when choosing a secondary school. She was always kind and fun to be with.

I would like to be at the service and be able to show support to you all but cannot because at the present time Meeting is too emotional a space for me personally to be in.

My thoughts and love are with you.
Katherine

In memory of Cindy

Kathy.

I have many scattered memories of Cindy, mainly from when we lived on Bishopthorpe Road, & up until
Louis and Toby were about 8 years old. I remember cosy New Year's Eves playing Pictionary, and big family suppers with, of course, wonderful food. I remember taking all the kids down to Rowntree Park with her, and her astute, amusing comments about our own and other peoples kids... Cindy was always observant, always interested, and so hospitable, a great 'provider' — I remember a party you gave, when you'd been to a pick-your-own strawberry farm, and there was this great bowl of strawberries on the table — it typified her somehow.
Cindy once did me the kindness of giving me a personal reference for a job application I was doing. She was businesslike and organised as we got the details of the post from me... and then she went away and came up with a few comments that were so to the point, and thoughtful - she told me something I had not previously known about myself — helped me get the job I am sure (!) and helped me since, just having an aspect of myself

pointed out to me like that — her ability to do that makes her out in my mind as a natural teacher.

More recently, during this past year since I moved back to York, I have been struck by the energy and sense of purpose, and humour, that radiated from her. Cindy had the capacity to make having a life-threatening illness seem like an ordinary thing, and perhaps my most abiding sense of her now comes from the grace and absolute style with which she carried herself through.

with much love — Kath Pringle 25 September 2005

Hi
— the fact that this card has an excellent picture of a gerbera on it meant I had to buy it in spite of its saying 'thinking of you'... clearly I was thinking of you, and of Cindy, but it's still naff to say, it innit? The funeral was a good one — bloody well done —
I almost reved up for a 2nd time during but couldn't quite think how to phrase what I was thinking, which was something along these lines.....
One of the most wonderful things that has kept me going since Marcus died is just the sense of his love — some days it lights me up, literally (well or, figuratively then ..) —. Cindy was such a shining person, and so full of love for you and the kids, that I am sure you'll get the same effect. Meantime, be very nice to yourself, in her honour — ♡ Kath

Cindy was very nice and we will miss her alot. She helped me at embroiderers and took me to gym. she also made my ballet costume for my show.

Nok xxx

9.10.2005.

Dear Edward,

Thank you so much for your correspondence.

All the memories of Lovely Cindy, are Bright + Beautiful, but, she once came to our home at East Ashling,
& a lovely day, I remember, & John was just a little toddler, + to amuse him.
Cindy did a funny little jumping dance, around the lawn, John, in his baby way, laughed so much, & Cindy looked so happy. A lovely bright star, & thats how we will remember
Cindy always.

Our Thoughts + Prayers are with you, + the children at all times.

Take Great Care.
With Lots of Love to You, Toby,
John + Rose.
From Pam + Ray (Jubb) xx

Cindy to the Rescue

Oh no! It was Nok's dance show in a few weeks time, and we were supposed to be making costumes... But neither Jenny nor I can sew.
I didn't even try, knowing it would be a disaster.
Jenny attempted to adjust a Greek tunic ~ cutting it while it was pinned to Nok, resulting in a strange S-shaped rag, beyond repair. However would we manage the Siamese costume, which needed to be made from scratch?!

A couple of evenings later, we went to a multicultural evening at the Priory Centre in York. Cindy, Rose and John were there. While the kids went off to get henna tattoos and do Indian stick dancing, the mums sat around chatting ~ about teaching mostly (no wonder Nok,
Rose and John kept themselves busy!) Cindy was telling us about her job as a textiles teacher, about her G.C.S.E students who wanted to "do" fashion, about saying goodbye to them when she became ill, and about how much she was enjoying spending time with Rose, John, Toby and Edward now she was at home. But the topic of textiles inevitably led to our sewing problems. Five minutes into our description of our attempts, Cindy cried
"No more! I'll make them!" She came around a couple of days later. I'd pinned the pattern to the material. "Shall I cut it out?" I asked. "No!" She replied, quickly rescuing the fabric.

Over the next couple of weeks we kept bumping into Cindy going to Boyes on her electric

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bike to get extra bits she needed for the Siamese costume. The end result was wonderful. Nok really looked the part in "The King and I" dance.

Cindy was such an amazing person. I will never forget how she faced life, and has she taught me not to fear death. I wish I'd known her for longer, but in a way I did and will, through Edward and their beautiful children.

Cindy, I believe that you are now starting what Aslan promised Lucy and the dwarfs at the end of "The Last Battle." You are
"beginning Chapter One of the Great Story which no one an earth has read: which goes on forever: in which every chapter is better than the one before."

I hope that one day we will all be there with you.

Saffron Walkling
25th September 2005.

Dear Edward, 25/09/05
Cindy and my life's have crossed twice, with
20 years in between!
Initially we met as we did the same degree.
This linked us to work in health promotion.
For a number of months we lived in the same Nurses Home in Neasden London.
We worked on similar projects in the same office. Cindy spent her 3rd year on work experience there.
I enclose photos of the Nurses Home (new houses) and a picnic of a group of women spending a day out at Hickstead, Sussex in 1982 or 83. I thought you may wish to put them in your memory book. The children may one day be interested in what their Mum did in her early 20's.
Cindy always knew me as Sue, we met again at the Cancer Care Centre where I now work as the Patient Information
Centre. Quite a coincidence. We would often chat about Home Economics things and what we'd get up to previously. Despite the years she still was the same.
I am sad that Cindy's lessons in life are now complete, whilst we still have more to learn without her. I will miss her. I learnt a lot of lessons alongside her, for which I am grateful. I found her an inspiration on better occasions, and know she made an impact on many people she met.
Thinking of you and your family at this most difficult of times, with very best wishes

Suzanne

30 Sept 2005

Dear Edward,

I am so, so sorry to learn of Cindy's death, and truly sorry we had lost touch.
I met you briefly in OZ - not long before you and Cindy were to head home to the UK - and you were to start UNI at York. I was in OZ for Christmas and New Year
89/90, staying with my niece Karen.

The 3 of us, Cindy, Karen and me, had many happy shared memories. Our first holiday together we visited the Yorkshire Dales, Grassington, Kettlewell, Thwaite,
Keld and Hawes, and visited Bolton Abbey on the way back south. Such beautiful countryside, not far from you in York. Sadly I have no photos of that holiday.

We also had a wonderful time together visiting W. Scotland and the Isle of Skye.
I have put together a few photos for you, Toby, John and Rose.

I first met Cindy when she was a student at Guildford, she being a friend of Karen's. Saw a lot more of her when she was living and teaching in Hackney.

I always admired her, and remember thinking how organized and matter of fact she was. So mature for her years. Her willingness to have a go - her humour - always trying to see the bright side of things. Always willing to accept a challenge and support her friends.

I'm sure motherhood and family mentor gave her the challenge, fulfilment, and pleasure she desired. Very sure she was a wonderful MUM, and a dedicated and supportive wife. I'm only sorry I didn't make myself available for Cindy to share with me her pride and pleasure in her/your created family.

Such sad news - such sorrow.

My heart goes out to you.

I wish you strength. Shared love and support from one another to deal with the pain and emptiness. Cindy so dear and central to you all, taken from you far too early in your lives together.

My condolences.

Sincerely, and Cindy's
Rae Burbidge (Karen's auntie Rae) well actually just RAE.

CINDY · KAREN · RAE

2weeks August/September 1986
Isle of Skye & Western Scotland.

Kylerhea - crossing back from Skye to Scottish mainland we took cable-driven car ferry.
Could only take 3 cars at a time.

Map of the route

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Scottish Piper's we just came across while walking around
GLENCOE area .
Stayed one night at Glencoe YHA .

Glencoe: Photos taken by Jeff (lone Canadian traveller) - gave him a lift from Loch Lomond
YHA to Fort William.

Not sure why Cindy has her boots off - she either had blisters on her feet, or she had a paddle in the cold mountain stream!!

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Taking lunch at Lochailort
Harbour edge.

Glencoe:
Fording a river - box and cable system - needed strong arms to pull.
Cindy assisting in getting
Karen + Jeff back to base.

Shores of Loch Lomond.

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Near Mallaig:
Cindy & Karen being "blown in the wind" on the edge of a peat bog.
The earth moved under foot - strange feeling!!

Lunch on Rocky outcrop, also on day's walk around
Mallaig.

Stopped for Refreshments, another picnic this time on the banks of Loch Lomond.

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Isle of Skye:

Cindy & Karen crossing top of waterfall on our day adventure in the Cuillin Hills.

Looking back down from the CUILLIN HILLS out across
Loch Brittle and the Cuillin Sound.

Sheltering from the wind and looking at our map.
The Cuillins,
Skye.

5.

Near Mallaig:
Back down to the waters edge at Loch Morar coming to the end of our all day walk over rocks, peat bogs and heather.
Really clean white sand at the shoreline of the loch.

Isle of Skye:
On the road just before we descended to the small car-ferry at Kylerhea to get back to the Scottish mainland.

6.

On our way home stayed night at BEN NEVIS YHA.
Nice sunny afternoon so decided to climb
Ben Nevis - took 3hrs. to climb and only 1 hr. to descend.

Well worn path to walk + scramble up.
Didn't quite make the top as a blizzard started. Snow came down thick and fast. Totally unexpected!!
Good job we were all 3 wearing bright colours as visibility became almost zero.

Some walkers were only wearing T'Shirts, it had been such a sunny afternoon when we started.
As we descended the snow became cold, cold
Rain - and this was only beginning of September!!.

Map of the route

The Wednesday night Yoga group had a special session celebrating Cindy's life and providing us with an opportunity to share memories and thoughts
(and lemon tart) and send loving thoughts to Edward, Toby, Rose and John.

On behalf of the group I offer this reading from
"The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Om Shanti

Peace

Susie, Judith, Penny, Alison, Helen, Marilyn, Maureen, Peter,
Rosie, Bill, Cressie, Stella, Matthew and Val

I can't remember how many years Cindy has been part of our Yoga group - but I remember the first night she came. She told me about her illness + that she had only one lung. Since Yoga puts such emphasis on breathing I left that night thinking "well this could be a bit of a challenge!"
But it was not a challenge - it was a delight.

Two special memories to share - one "tarrattasana" while the rest of us were falling over Cindy looked serene and balanced. The other is Cindy's shower posture "vrkasana" (the tree). I will miss her smile, her laughter and her fingers massaging my shoulders. I am so pleased Cindy came into my life. Right now, like many others, I am sad she has gone, I miss her presence but not sorry her suffering is over. I feel her looking down on us and smiling. Our thoughts are with her spirit and with Edward, Toby
Rose + John. Om Shanti Peace

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From: "Rosie Blanksby"
Subject: Cindy
Date: Tue, 13 Sep 2005 21:59:15 +0000

Dear Susie,

I have my special memories of Cindy, as do Cressie and Bill and most people who came into contact with her. Her cheerfulness in the face of her illness was an inspiration. We also send love and best wishes to Edward and her children,
Our thoughts will be with you on Wednesday at the yoga group, too. I celebrate her bravery and her joyfulness and Bill her determination.

We will see you very soon, as we leave Australia today.

Love from

Rosie and Bill

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